7 SIGNS YOUR LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP IS ENDING

1. YOU NO LONGER FEEL THE NEED TO TALK

Of all of the red flags, a lack of communications is one of the biggest signs your long distance relationship is ending. Communication is key to any long distance relationship, and when you no longer feel the need to talk, it means you no longer feel the need to keep your relationship strong. You need to make communication a priority in your long distance relationship. If not, it is almost guaranteed that your relationship will not succeed.


2. YOU CATCH YOUR EYE WANDERING

When you are in a long distance relationship, it is always okay to look but not touch. But if you are taking it too far and longing to be with other partners, you may need to reevaluate your relationship's status. While us women have our needs, it is important to remember that we are committed to our partner. If you think you are spending too much time wondering what it would be like to be with another man, it might be one of the warning signs your long distance relationship is ending.


3. THERE IS AN ALWAYS EXCUSE

Like I said earlier, communication is key to a long distance relationship. If either of you are constantly making up an excuse to why you cannot talk, it might be a red flag. You can always carve out a little bit of your day to Skype or call your partner. Make sure you are not exaggerating how busy you are to get out of communicating.


4. YOU ARE FOCUSING ON THE NEGATIVES

There must be some reason you are in a long distance relationship. Some positives of your partner that you love so much you are willing to risk all of the negatives for them. If you find yourself focusing so much on all the negatives of either your partner or the long distance relationship, then maybe you are not willing to risk it anymore. Long distance relationships are incredibly hard, and it is not uncommon to notice the negatives. But if it is all you can think about for more than a month, that is one of the big signs your long distance relationship ending.


5. YOU AVOID PROBLEMS

Because you get to choose when to talk to your partner, it is easy to avoid talking to them. You may avoid talking about your problems or communicating at all. Both are warning signs. A key part of maintaining any relationship is working through your problems. It is important to make sure that you don’t use long distance as an excuse to avoid your problems because it is so easy to stop any communication.


6. THERE IS NO TALK OF A FUTURE

If you are in a long distance relationship, you must be dedicated towards a future, or else you wouldn’t put yourself through the tough times that come along with it. If you and your partner stop talking about what the future brings, how can you ever expect your long distance relationship to turn into a close relationship? You should not feel that your relationship has reached its peak when you two are apart.


7. YOU ARE ALWAYS FRUSTRATED

Trust me, I get how frustrating long distance relationships can be. But, if you find yourself constantly annoyed at your partner, frustrated at your relationship, or even frustrated at yourself, it may be one of the signs that your long distance relationship is ending. The whole point of a relationship is to make you happy. If your long distance relationship makes you constantly angry, why remain in it?

Long distance relationships are not easy. They require time, dedication, and love. But if you can make it through it for the person you love, they are worth it. Not all long distance relationships make it, though. And these warning signs that your long distance relationship is ending are important to watch out for. What are some other warning signs? What are some keys to maintaining a long distance relationship?

Texting

I have been meaning to write this blog for a while now, but I know once I do I will step on so toes and there will be "Consequences". As a matter of fact I detest texting I very seldom do it. I detest people who are talking to you and there phone rings and they take the call and walk off as if you are not important, or they start texting standing there going ugh huh now to anything you say. I could see if it is a emergency, the husband or wife needing something, or if it is the office adding more work to your even hectic day. But, this is BS something you can do on facebook or text when you get home.Everyone seems so stressed out and more, more people wonder why they are stressed out. You do not give you mind a rest. You are constantly multi tasking and your phone is your life line your stressor.

 I, personally find text messaging to be very impersonal, rude and very cold. What I mean by cold is that I always feel like people through text messages are being mean(even if I know they aren't) because to me words by themselves are cold and it is difficult to express emotion through a text. Does anyone else feel this way about texting or am I just being sensitive?

Of' course text messaging, instant messaging and so on are impersonal. no one these days has the time to just "talk" any more. what ever happen to the days where there was no text messaging, instant messaging or anything of that sort? most people can't even remember life without it. it was always nice and refreshing to hear someone "voice" on the other end of the phone not to mention the fact that things were not lost in translation as they are so often in non voice communication these days.

but on the other hand, it is nice to be able to communicate in short spurts when you are in situations where you are not able to talk such as a meeting or in class. the illustrious "i love you" text is always a winner - lol

Facebook and Privacy Settings

Here is a post I didn't post because I know that there are a lot of people out there who would have something rude to say about it and I didn't want my post to become the next viral post to get a bunch of rude comments.  But I really do feel it needs to be said.

Here is the truth about privacy settings.....

Since I can control the comments on my own blog I decided to write it here instead.  So, here is the unposted post:  

This could start a firestorm, but I feel it must be said.  A bunch of my friends and family have been posting that privacy comment saying they will unfriend anyone who doesn't change their privacy settings...you know the one; and I just read a bunch of comments on the FB Q&A about how they are all upset that Facebook isn't private and how Facebook should be protecting our privacy.  Guess what!  Facebook isn't private, never was, and never will be.  And neither is the Internet.  Anything posted anywhere in "the cloud" can be seen, read, found....  If you don't want it seen, don't post it.  If you don't want it read, don't write it and post it online.  NO social media platform is private.  Don't be mad at Facebook because your comment or picture is seen by others....be mad at yourself for posting it.  I'm sick of hearing about how everyone is so upset that they posted something and it's all Facebook's fault that a bunch of people saw it.  Facebook didn't post it...you did!

I'm sure there are those that will have something to say about this.  Leave your comments if you would like.  I'll respect your opinion and would appreciate your respecting mine...even if we don't agree. This is why I do not accept everyone's tags or tag that many people. For instance someone tags me and I get friend request, this shows me that that person saw me in a tagged pic or where I commented on someone post. I cannot blame facebook since I post a picture or made a comment now can I?

SOCIAL MEDIA & OPINIONS

So I am a self admitted Internet junkie. Facebook is my crack .... along with maple syrup and sharpies ... but back to the Internet. It is a wonderful wonderful tool. The information is mind blowing. The world is really at our fingertips and that is, well, amazing. I have found friends, made friends, been inspired, been challenged, learned about myself and others and shared my work which has allowed me to partake in opportunities that would not have been possible just a few short years ago...again... AMAZING!

So here is my problem. The Internet has also been something else to me. Something very very different and actually the opposite of amazing. It has made me realize that we all have become very opinionated (NOT excluding myself at all!) and kind of mean when it comes to others. I try very hard to only post positive messages and share things that I feel really strongly about but I find myself being more and more bombarded with messages of negativity from friends who I don't want to think of that way. 

I don't want to be seen that way. I don't want to put down others to pick myself up. I don't want to label a whole group of people to make myself feel better about my position on issues. I want to be able to talk without everyone taking it personally and I want to be able to do the same...because like everyone I do take things personally. I wonder if when I post my thoughts if there are people out there who think that I am negative when really I try to always come from a place of understanding. 

I want to not care and care all at the same time. 

Do you get it? 

So how do you get over this age of wayyyyy too much information? What have you done to speak your mind but still be kind? Is it possible to love each other and disagree completely? Some of my favorite friends have different opinions than I but we can talk about it and still respect each other. 

Is there a way to do that online or do we just have to become numb to the negativity and like everything else in life just choose to see the good? 

Share your thoughts please!

Thank You Mr. Engelbart

Born on January 25, 1925, in Portland, Oregon, Douglas C. Engelbart was a pioneer in the design of interactive computer environments who invented the computer mouse in 1964. He also created the first two-dimensional editing system, and was the first to demonstrate the use of mixed text-graphics and shared-screen viewing. He was director of SRI International's Augmentation Research Center in Palo Alto and founded Stanford University's Bootstrap Project. Engelbart died in Atherton, California, on July 2,

CONTENTS

Synopsis
Early Life and Career
Computer Design Pioneer
Later Years and Legacy
2013, at age 88.

Early Life and Career

A pioneer in the design of interactive computer environments, Douglas Carl Engelbart was born to Carl and Gladys Engelbart on January 25, 1925, in Portland, Oregon. He had two siblings: A younger sister, Dorianne Engelbart Vadnais (born in 1922), and an older brother, David Engelbart (born in 1927). After graduating from Franklin High School in Portland in 1942, Engelbart enrolled at Oregon State College (Oregon State University) in Corvallis, where he studied electrical engineering.

Drafted into the U.S. Army as World War II came to close, the future inventor worked as a radar technician in the Philippines for two years before returning to Oregon State. Not long after graduating with a bachelor's degree in 1948, Engelbart landed a position at California's Ames Research Center, a government aerospace laboratory run by the National Advisory Committee on Aeronautics (a precursor to NASA).

Computer Design Pioneer

Douglas C. Engelbart went on to earn a Ph.D. in electrical engineering from the University of California, Berkeley, in 1955. After returning to the school for a stint as an acting assistant professor, Engelbart began a career at the Stanford Research Institute (later renamed SRI International). Around this same time, he began focusing on an approach that he termed "bootstrapping," in which he asserted the fields of engineering and science would be greatly improved if computer power were shared among researchers.

In the early 1960s, Engelbart founded SRI International's Augmentation Research Center in Palo Alto in an effort to further research information processing and computer-sharing tools and methods. Soon after, Engelbart designed and was the promary developer of the oN-Line System, also known as NLS, a revolutionary computer-sharing system.

In 1964, Engelbart conceptualized and created the first design for the computer mouse. While Engelbart believed that the point-and-click computer device could be equipped with up to 10 buttons, the first mouse would have just three. The inventor went on to create the first two-dimensional editing system, and was the first to demonstrate the use of mixed text-graphics and shared-screen viewing.

Engelbart served as director of the Augmentation Research Center from its inception until 1977. The center was transferred to Tymshare in 1978, with NLS being renamed "Augment. In 1989, Engelbart founded the Bootstrap Project at Stanford University.

Later Years and Legacy

Engelbart received several honors throughout his lifetime, including the Coors American Ingenuity Award (1991), the Yuri Rubinsky Memorial Award (1995), the IEEE John von Neumann Medal, the Lemelson-MIT Prize (1997), the Turing Award (1997) and the National Medal of Technology and Innovation (2000). Unfortunately, Engelbart never received any royalties for inventing the computer mouse, for which he's now best known.

Engelbart died of kidney failure in Atherton, California, on July 2, 2013. He was 88.
He was survived by his second wife, Karen O’Leary Engelbart; daughters Gerda, Diana and Christina; son Norman; and nine grandchildren. (His first wife, Ballard Fish Engelbart, died of ovarian cancer in 1997.)

What Sights I visit most. "What are yours?"

I know you have those "go to" websites.  You know...the ones you have to visit most every day.

Let's share them on here.  I'd love to find some new interesting and fun things to read, so I'm asking you to leave a comment with your favorites in it.

If we all participate, we should find some really good stuff!

Here are mine:

Pinterest (duh...if you haven't checked it out, I am going to apologize for the addiction you will soon have).  Find me on there by looking for Amber. =).  I am finding so many good quotes, funny sayings, beautiful decorating tips, wonderful gift ideas, and delicious-looking recipes!

The Happy Place - sometimes a bit crude and irreverent, but quite funny as well.

Damn You Autocorrect - still leaves me in tears every time. Not suitable for children so make sure no little eyes are spying over your shoulder.

Uncluttered - This just sings to me.

22 Words - Collection of a lot of great internet finds.

1000 Awesome Things - I love that others find joy in so many of the things that I do!


So what are yours?  Please share so we can all find some great new places to visit!