It feels good to be noticed and loved by someone whose only wish is to be with you, spend their Time with you and share their lives with you. If someone is truly in love with you and haven’t had The courage to speak their heart out yet and you suspect they do, look at their actions when you’re Around. In my case, whenever my girlfriend used to be around me when I hadn't asked her out, I used to forget everything else around me and pay an immense level of attention on her and her Only. Then I finally found the courage to ask for her hand and I’m glad I did. It can be a bit difficult For girls though. So guys, if you have a best friend who’s always talking to you in person, over texts, On calls, they worry if you’re sick and they get really happy when you succeed in something, maybe You need to make things easier for them and make them ask the question.
#9 - They Go Over-The-Top For You
When someone is madly in love with you, they make sure you get the message by their actions if They’re too scared to use their words. They make sure they always remember your birthday, they Make sure they celebrate every happy occasion with you, they make sure you feel like royalty by The way they treat you. After the first few times, it gets pretty obvious if they want to be with you or Not, and if so - you need to make a move and make sure you don’t let them go. True love is almost Non-existent in today’s world and if someone still cares this much about you then you better make Them yours before someone else swoops in and takes them away.
#8 - They Get Shy Around You Easily
True love is a powerful and precious feeling, and when someone wants to make you theirs it gets Really hard to make a move without having the fear of driving you away and losing you forever. I don’t know if other guys get shy around the girls they love but I surely did. I used to get so shy in Front of my crush that I couldn’t even talk properly in front of her. And I made sure every word I Spoke and every action I made was impressive and awesome. She eventually got the hint and Made me strong enough to finally ask her out, I love her for doing that to this very day. If you notice A particular person acting shy or getting red cheeks in front of you, you need to make a move Because they sure can’t.
#7 - Their Level Of Interest For You Is Incredible
So you have a close friend who is genuinely very interested in your life. They ask you about your Goals, your favorite movies, your favorite TV shows, your favorite food etc. Then they make sure They are well-aware of the stuff you like so they can have a bigger conversation with you about Everything you like. It’s very sweet and pure when someone makes an effort to make you smile So you better not let that go by going out with someone who won’t even care about what you Care about. Don’t let that friend go and make them yours. Best friends make some of the most Successful couples.
#6 - They Are Never Out Of Your Reach
You notice a particular friend of yours is always there for you. No matter what their routine is, they Always make sure you get the proper time and attention you deserve. They get particularly caring When you’re sad or sick. They get extremely happy when you achieve something. They genuinely Take time out for you and always will. That particular friend is deeply and truly in love with you. Don’t let them go, it’s not easy finding someone who would give up their schedules and their time For you and your happiness.
#5 - They Are All Ears When You Speak
This one is important. Have you noticed a friend who is actually listening to everything you say? Generally, people don’t pay attention when the conversation gets to long or if the topic isn’t to Their liking. But if you have a person in your life who always genuinely listens to you and lets you Know they’re interested in whatever you’re talking about, you need to lock that person down and Make them yours.
#4 - They Always Make You Laugh And Smile
This might seem repetitive but is important. It really does feel good to know there’s a person who Genuinely wants you to smile and makes you laugh specially when you’re down or sad. That Person is selfless and loving and they are madly in love with you. It’s really hard to find selfless And pure love these days. Don’t let them go and make sure their smile matters to you as much as Yours to them.
#3 - They Share Everything With You
We’ve all had troubling times in our lives, dark pasts and what have you. It’s not easy sharing all the Dark and depressing details of those times with anyone. But if you have a person in your life who Always shares everything with you, who feels better after sharing their bad times with you, who Doesn’t mind crying in front of you, that person is in love with you because no one exposes their Weaknesses in front of others without trusting them blindly and completely.
#2 - They Give You Hints Every Now And Then
This one is really important. A friend of mine had a close friend in college, she used to like him a lot. He used to like her too but was always scared to make a move. One day, she told him she was getting engaged, we later found out she was making it up but that one line was enough for my friend to ask her out. Had she not done that, my friend would've kept waiting for the right moment And someone else would've taken her away. They’re still together after three years now. So my Point is, pay attention to your close friends. If they try giving you hints you need to get the message And avoid making a mistake. A mistake that you would regret for the rest of your life.
#1 - You’re Always Number One On Their List
Like I said, if someone madly loves you, you’re the most important person in their life. They always Ask you before making a big move (be it business or studies), they always come to you for advice And are always interested in every word of yours. They always invite you to dinners and parties Before asking anyone else. They always pay more attention to you than their closest of friends. If you notice this happening around you, be open to the fact that you won’t find anyone like them.
#10 Be Transparent
It’s not easy being completely transparent with someone you’ve just started a relationship with But it’s extremely important. Better you than some fiendish person trying to ruin your relationship. If you have anything about your past that haunts you, spit it out, don’t keep things for later, the More transparent you are with your partner the healthier the relationship becomes. It’s going to Take a lot of effort but it’s completely worth it.
#9 Your Age
This is one of the most delicate topics for women but it’s important to let it out, do not lie About your age prior to the relationship. If he is interested, age won’t matter, if you’re insecure About revealing your age, it would only make him doubt you and once he doubts you on this He will very easily doubt you on something else. Keep it transparent with the birth dates.
#8 Your Take On Sports
Don’t take me wrong, ladies, men love the sight of a woman who’s into sports, but they know most Women don’t like sports as much as they do. So if you’re not into sports and your man is raving about It, don’t “pretend” to like it. If he’s watching a game and it’s of no interest to you, tell him. You don’t have To sit through his hours of TV time and also feel weird and uncomfortable while doing it, he’s going to Know by the way you pretend to like it and that’ll be a huge turn off for him. Be realistic and truthful, Remember this, only true feelings can keep a relationship alive.
#7 Your Past Intimacy
Most women would disagree with this but men respect women who are open about their past Relationships. If you hide your past intimacy with your ex, he will get skeptical. If you’re open About it and tell him exactly as it is before the relationship, he will always trust you. A big no Is when women bring up their past sex lives in the middle of a relationship, that just breaks all Boundaries of trust and ultimately the relationship itself.
#6 Your Cooking Abilities
Cooking skills - most women think it is highly important if they pose as a good cook when they Can’t make a decent meal. Don’t promise him Italian meals and exotic dishes when you can’t Make them. It’s fine if a woman can’t cook properly, both of you are together to better each other In every walk of life, but if you lie about things it can very well cost you in the future.
#5 Life After Marriage
It’s a huge misconception in women that if they bring up the topic of marriage it will instantly Scare the man away. That’s not true. If your relationship is as strong as you think it is, it should Be very comforting to talk about a future together. We are all in relationships to make a better Life for ourselves. Why wait and be scared? Tell him how you want to be after marriage, your Goals in life, the house you would want to buy with him, the kids you want to have. Open up!
#4 Your Take On His Inner Circle
Ladies, if you don’t like the company your man keeps, tell him. Have your reasons ready, make sure They’re valid. He won’t disagree if you talk from a practical point of view. If you think the friends he’s With are using him or are general bad people, tell him about it thoroughly. But make sure you are Gentle with your words, don’t make it seem like you’re forcing it on him, let him make his own decisions But let your feelings be known.
#3 About His Female Friends
It’s human nature to feel possessive about the ones you love. Ladies, if your man has a lot Of female friends and he’s a little too “friendly” with them, let him know. If it’s coming to the Point where you’re constantly thinking about him hanging out with his female friends and You’re worried about it, let it be known that you’re not okay with it. If he really loves you, He won’t even argue about it and stop hanging out with them.
#2 Don’t Hide The Ex
If your ex is still in touch with you for some reason, it might be bad not to tell your man all About it. It’s better to tell him than him accidentally seeing him call you on the phone or read Your messages. Keep it all in the open, don’t keep such things from your guy, he is yours to Keep he deserves to know. This works both ways.
#1 The Real You
It’s okay to cover yourself in makeup and to act the way he wants you to but to a certain extent. If you hide the real you for a long period of time it might go very badly for you. He loves you for Who you are not for who you’re trying to be. Guys love nothing more than a lady who’s true to Herself and then to them. Keep it real, ladies.
The rain comes pouring down as I sit by my window,
I envision us just as we once were, when I could
touch you, hold you and I knew you were mine, all
this before that fatal night I can see it so vividly when
you were gone in a twinkling of a eye.
I can still recall the first one up making breakfast, and
your plate is always there upon my table, even if I don't eat
a bite. I have often ate yours since it is so much better
than mine. I love when you get up from the table and
thank me for a excellent meal, bush my hair back from
my eyes and kiss my forehead, my nose, my mouth.
Baby, I know I hold you in such high esteem and
I know there can never be another you. It is not that
you were the best man in the world, but you were my
man and so I guess you will always be the best man
especially for me.
I know there are others, that I could have the chance
to be with someone else, to be happy again. But, it is
not fair to the man that will fill your shoes, your bed
and my heart.
I try to let go. I have put all your pictures away to
only pull them out of the drawers I have put them in to
take a peek, yet my heart is weak. I eventually pull
them all out again and place them neatly all over the
house. I told myself after the first six months that I
would not have a shrine in your honor since it would
be too much. I often wonder what people must say?
I find that when I have company I put all your
pictures up out of sight but never out of mind.
I don't hide you baby, or the feelings I have for
you still, but I don't mentioned you to family or
friends. There are only very few people that I can
share my feelings about you with. I admit I do blog
about you, just as I am doing now.
I have honestly done everything within my power to
let you go.I have asked you to leave, no I have begged
you to leave, then only to beg you to stay since you will
think that I do not love you still. Yes, I have had therapy
I have blogged about my grief , I have been on
antidepressants, and nothing has helped. You are the
first person I think about in the morning and the last person
I think about before I go to sleep.
There is someone, there has been someone for a long
time but by this point I do not even know if they know
they can take me seriously. I have never made love
to them, never kissed them, yet I hold them at bay,
but they are never far from my heart or my thoughts.
I am not even sure that they know how I feel about them.
They have had women come or go in there life, and yes I was
jealous. I keep telling myself that I cannot be with them or
anyone until I am over you for good. But, Baby I have no clue
when that will be.
I will not speak bad of Blake, but baby I don't even know
what that was. I am not one to have a cheap torrid affair
with someone I am not in love with. I willed my self to be in
love with Blake. I wanted to be in love with him really, but
you can't force something that is not there. He said, to
me on more than one occasion that I was in love with
a dead man, and a dead man slept between us at night. I
don't know why? Blake was the last person on the face
of the earth I wanted to mention your name to. But, I
know I didn't have to mention you because he felt it. Then
you would think that someone so upset or having to live with
a dead man would have given up and went away without
all the drama. I did care for Blake, I just wasn't in love
with him.
It is still raining on me. Still raining in my life from the tears I
shed. I am sure that people think I am putting on, that no
one could love someone this much, but that could not be
further from the truth. I suppose I have grown accustom
to having you in my life, thoughts, mind and heart everyday.
I fill my life with as much sunshine as I can muster, but
my thoughts always return to you. The life we could have
had. The life I always dreamed of. The Life I always wanted.
The Fairy Tale.
I think of how God gives us that one special person in life, some
do not recognize them when they see them, some want
someone else other than who they are destined to be with.
But, there are those who just know.They know this person
was sent from God just as I did with you my love. I hear parents
saying oh they are too young, and that they do not have any
idea what they want at this age. But, baby we proved them
wrong didn't we?
I would be with you the rest of my life and we met in middle school.
I loved that you were shy. I loved that you said I was the prettiest girl
you had ever seen and you made me feel that way for many years
until the Lord took you to be with him. You were my soul mate
my one true love.
But, baby the rain comes far to often, I feel lost and alone and no
one should feel that way. Baby, I know you want me happy. I know
it is not you holding on to me, but me not letting go. No one was out
there that night after I found you, as I held you. I once came up with
another story a short and sweet one, so I didn't have to keep reliving
the horror.
But, I do relive the horror everyday, I shed tears as I write this now.
I think if you had died of natural causes if would be better for me.
I still remember that stretch of road, and when ever I go home I
have to stop by and look out into that farmers field. There are
flowers up near the road, but not where you died. I always
visit your parents when I am home, yet I haven't been home in
over a year now. I still talk to your mama and I know she loves
me since I was part of you. My only regret is not having a baby
since you were a only child. But, we both discussed it, and it
was not the time to have a child since we were both in pursuit
of our careers. But, I will always regret not having a little Jason
Aaron Taylor II. I so wish that you could live on through me.
I will always love you Jason. Please help me set myself free.
So that I can love again, dream again, and make someone
else happy the way I did you. I do find this personal
yet I want the person I care about to know why I do
not jump at any offers he has gave to me. I know he cares
although, he must believe me to be insane by now, I need
to be a complete, healthy and emotionally stable person
before I can ever take that step again.
SAPPHO, the one great woman poet of the world, who called herself Psappha in her own Aeolic dialect, is said to have been at the zenith of her fame about the year 610 B.C.
During her lifetime Jeremiah first began to prophesy (628 B.C.), Daniel was carried away to Babylon (606 B.C.), Nebuchadnezzar besieged and captured Jerusalem (587 B.C.), Solon was legislating at Athens, and Tarquinius Priscus, the fifth king, is said to have been reigning over Rome. She lived before the birth of Gautama, the (founder of Buddhism, the religion now professed by perhaps almost a third of the whole population of the globe.
That she was a native of Lesbos, an island in the Aegean sea, is universally admitted; and all but those writers who speak of a second Sappho say she lived at Mitylene, the chief city of the island. The existence of a Sappho who was a courtesan of Ersus, a smaller Lesbian city, besides the poetess of Mitylene, is the invention of comparatively late authors; and it is probably due to their desire to detach the calumnies, which the Comic poets so long made popular, from the personality of the poetess to whose good name her own contemporaries bore witness.
1. I've finished weeping the sun and climbing the stairs to a finger immersed in the blue of the city. I can feel my skin stretching over yours again. Music, pure ambrosia to those currents of mine which knowingly, willingly, choose to smother what is golden in the distance between trees. I've a sudden need to flap my leather wings with all the clarity of war on meat-hooked lips, psychological, astrological. And very much a windmill. It begins in the mirror, in the molten wonder of hedonists refused entry to a timeless world.
Cherubim with red hands...
2. They drool a strange kind of thunder, hiss pharoahs in order to persist in their young, particularly fragrant, delirium. Bones of truth without being a single syllable at sunset, memories like purrung from someone's frantic antennae. "Reality is invented by the incestuous," (a favorite maxim of mine) scrawled on the foreheads of habit, riding the bus alongside the many corridors of summer, what survived to contemplate murmuring geometries, the sneer of jazz. I've tapped out thick, foolish beginnings to chaos for gasoline, sold the laughter depicted by thieves beneath angry bridges. But everybody still comes to me for their 3 o'clocks, what I'll do to leave traces of genitalia on pillows wet like trembling strangers I met in slow motion.
Everywhere is hanging in a cave.
3. You are very Christ-like when my veins are thin, quiet, a neutrality nobody cares to notice. Or it doesn't matter to them in the least when my shadow casts off its democratic veneer. I was structured as a series of prefaces to dusty, secret backrooms, waves of light drunk with the power of perfectly-tailored suits and oil-slick ennui. The sorcery, nervous, discordant, wants to analyze the way you slip in and out of my television, leaving me to stare at worn, decrepit pictures of Frida Kahlo and wish I wasn't such a radio for erasures on the cusp of turning into sandy, warm, thighs.
4. I'm determined to be a mysterious rhythm in curves of breath stuck to the cold, hard, facts, little daydreams glimpsed quickly through a freshly-polished bakery window, where the tables are deeply in lust with pools of spilt coffee that drip lasciviously over their edges. Saxophones could grow in that loneliness. It's almost impossible to drive through the screams that persist in my motionless, black hair, Tokyos of young women sent by a notion to paint my empty bottles of rum. They left their individual testimonials scattered on throats bleeding the sorrow of every minute detail, despite the eyelids of earth and air.
